I have ADD and HSP! I am no more, but certainly no less than anyone else either!
Submitted life story of Bas
My relationships and divorce
Some years back I got divorced after 15 years of relationship. No children thankfully, went for it but did not succeed. During the relationship, she found new flesh and attention more attractive than fighting for each other. What did I have to offer her... Trust... Yes ..love too.... After years of struggling with her health, self-assurance, self-esteem and finally surviving from a very serious cyst operation, she decided, after a simple life on the couch, to spread her wings and choose her own freedom.
Ok that was a hard blow, but quite understandable in hindsight.
I went via a bachelor party of a friend of my brother's, to jump into my new life with a parachute at Texel.
That same evening, I ran into two hopping babes, one of whom I got in touch with at the end of the evening. I knew t had to happen... I had to kiss her... And then we'll see. T succeeded too... Despite knowing that t was going to work I was still surprised. Especially when, after a push from my brother, I spent the night with her. Being with another woman was strange, but felt good.
After doubts on both sides, we persevered anyway.
We went after meeting in May, divorcing in September, living together in November. Quite quickly all, but t felt right. However, here too there was uncertainty in her about being 'me'. Especially when our son came into the world a year later.
Postnatal mess and allergies did not do her or the relationship much good. I stood at t window peering in, knowing that that moment, "of father looking through window from a distance at his child", would become my future. That thought chopped into me, but I pushed it away.... I don't want that... And I fought again and I once again did my utmost to be of service to the other person to make them happier.
After moving to the coast in Aug, our baby daughter was born, again with all the mental mess attached. Soon after, her 13-year-old nephew came from a broken family with the misery; alcohol and other addictive junk.
The kid had ADD. His father ... The brother of ... had ADHD.
It was striking with the kid that he and I had a lot in common, to my mind. In the end, his aunt couldn't take it anymore, was also tough.
That wasn't down to t kid by the way.
Not to me either - afterwards.
She couldn't handle t.
She fought with herself.
Everything she struggled with had an external cause.
It was because of t house, because of me, because of others, because of other things, the weather, the road, the car, her shoes and also her father but also mine and especially my mother's too... No not hers. Psychologists had a hard time, if you got too close to her own failure, she was done with you.
Eventually a psych found out I could have ADD....
She put it to me....
A world opened up for me.....
Recognition everywhere...
Times were falling into place.
But then came t.....
Everything was my fault.....
See you see you see....
There is nothing you can do about it.
That's because of your shortcomings.
.... You have ADD...
I have HSP She said proudly...
I feel everything unerringly....
I felt myself plunging from a confident man to an insecure little boy.....
Books were brought in about how tough t is to live with an ADD'er and I was constantly pointed out the negative characteristics of ADD......
I was doomed... Lost ...retarded and a nothing....
At least that's how it came across to me....
SOD OFF!!!
No I was good...reliable and above all honest too pure yes.
I was creative.... Handy and definitely not retarded...
Yes dyslexia and dyscalculia is present
AND OK... I couldn't do magic. (Still don't)
But I already knew t.
I know things in advance.
T knocked.
She did not knock.
And still not.
She still doesn't realise it either.
I am divorced, again .... But now with children.
She found her love last year, she says, I think t played longer.
He, a mutual friend, lives 200km away. My kids, after keeping a secret from me for a while, finally get to tell me their secret..... "We are moving to ..." there so... 200km away! After final approval from me, t ..... happens Too sad for words, but there was nothing I could do about it... Not even according to my lawyer.
Even then, I knew that that relationship was doomed to fail....
And so more people around us....
We could have bet on it, one gave them 6mnds,
I gave them another 5yrs and some a yr.
Afin now after 3mnd she says she has moved in with her parents....
Again beyond me... Closer though!
Now I have been living in this latest colossal mess for a year with far too many headaches. At times, I cannot concentrate with what needs to be sorted out now.
But...
I know who I am and what I can do and what I can think about.
I have ADD and also HSP,
I am immensely handy,
I can move mountains and endure misery,
I have strength in myself,
but get quite depressed by this mess at times.
I see things (ADD) I feel things (HSP)
I am me and I am neither more nor less than anyone else!
Bas
As you said yourself, you see through everything because of your intuition, with that you might also be more understanding towards people with problems because you see through them, it makes them less difficult to avoid and you are more likely to show understanding and not run away from them, which gets you into trouble because you might unintentionally misunderstand situations and therefore miss the fact that they are still a problem despite diagnosis in the blink of an eye, and by being easily overexcited frustration is the result and there are still no pills like we like to have for people we want to help and always attract with problems, rather go into them with someone with whom you are the problem case, big chance that within no time you are balanced in terms of hassle because people who play rescuer want to be rescued themselves, species always seeks species but problems you can already see on someone's back and trust me..big bow around it, good luck and love!
Nice to read.
Still in diagnosis phase but am actually already om.....
Received notice last week that wrs..... Etc etc. Add
I shed 1 tear and rushed straight home doctor
Now waiting for place you at the pros
Environment responds well or not.
Hope for quick, good treatment
Bit unsure about the medication
forgot the most important thing...
After years of shit and misery . which, by the way, never got me small
I met the woman of my life.
this time, I went primarily by what my senses told me and not just what my ogn saw
a beautiful woman to look at (as an ordinary person) but and even more beautiful woman inside . in heart and soul. with wisdom compassion love honesty sincerity ... an amazingly beautiful soul.
those are seriously rare ... but they really exist!!!!
don't search!!! otherwise you won't find her. you will find her if you don't look!!!
cherish her and trust her because a woman like this is only put in your path once. but not until you are ready.
so come to yourself. you have to work hard for that and be very honest about yourself and to yourself for that.
not to hover ... but I too see a movement a change in humanity. call t indigo call t rainbow ... what ever ... but man is changing. we are the first ones who may start laying the foundation. in standards values honesty sincerity and respect and love.
this is going to be trickle by trickle and will take a long time. but what a task!!! what an honour!
Be who you are stay who you are ... a beautiful human being.
I miss all my children and my still unknown grandchildren. but I know that everything will work out in due course. because I have been told that :-)
just think of it this way the highest difficulty level is not wasted on people who really can't handle it!!! because you are better equipped with qualities you get a tougher path. your reward and self-esteem after accomplishment is then also much greater.... that's a promise
hefty story man. much recognisable!
myself fat fat add and 100% hsp according to the tests and shy with the characteristics/features.
the road to my sunrise was long and hard. Divorced twice...with kids...had a wife with mental illness twice.(are our kind looking for it or something?) but one thing is certain: I see everything. feel everything. know a lot in advance. can see the big picture. people can't lie to me. see right through them and can gauge them unerringly. because I have one more factor...float float float I have the clear senses (ESP) joeppieee (slightly sarcastic hihi)
that does make you experience life more intensely, and if you're not careful, suffer from it.
But Reiki was my door to the sunrise ...the sun is shining , the weather is sweet.
oh yeah that song applies to me too....
our bookcase compared to "ordinary" people is fuller of experiences and sometimes hard life lessons .
but don't make it a backpack because you'll lug around a lot. don't sit with those hot stones in your hand either..it will burn like that...unnecessary!
make a book of each lesson/period/experience etc. nice book with all the details feeling etc.
Put t in your closet in your mind and soul.
Catch t if needed. use it as wisdom.
but have HET in your power but don't let HET have you in its power.
because ADD & HSP is different and NOT less.
I couldn't or wouldn't want to be without it.
and Meditation training and initiation into Reiki will give you more tools and make you complete with control over your unique gifts.
strength.
Gee what a well-described story
I am now 34 and woke up a year and a half ago diagnosed with ADD/ADHD/HSP
I am a mother of four sons.
And gosh what a jerk I was in the years before this, more than was good for me it turned out.
A year and a half ago I collapsed, I could no longer....
Good help and guidance keep me going, but must say it was and still is now a leaden journey....
Kids with behavioural problems, hereditary factor I'm afraid....
And so ready for someone who can understand me, with whom I can have a good and nice conversation.
Hi Bas, your story touches me. Wrs I am also ADD and HSP, not tested, though I feel that way. Nice that you still have 2 children, I have 1 daughter. You know, it is what it is, what I notice about you is that you are especially honest. Painful it can be, but at the same time your strongest point in your own development.
Must think of a song by Bob Marley...Sun is shining and the weather is easy...enjoy extra in those moments when it's all there:)
Sun is shining, the weather is sweet yeah
Make you wanna move your dancing feet now
To the rescue, here I am
Want you to know, y'all, do you understand etc
Respect for you! The respect you have for yourself (kept and regained) I like best ?
Are you trying to get special assistance?
dear jan.... i don't quite understand your response... could you perhaps explain it a bit better?
Regards Bas